Doubts — Annoying as hell, but Helpful as Heaven
It takes time to go through, but eventually you will prevail
For years, I was plagued by doubts, wondering if I’d ever be able to articulate my thoughts clearly in English.
I’m sure many people feel the same way, not just in this case, but in everything in life.
Doubts…
This sticky voice in your head, whispering:
“You are delusional.”
“It doesn’t work with you.”
“When will you finally give it up?”
That’s not just doubts.
I realised it was something instilled by others. Maybe it was society, maybe environment, maybe something else.
And it was annoying.
The first time I overcame the fear of writing to someone in a new language was incredible. My first thought was, “I can do it. I did it.”
But then, again.
“Your grammar sucks.”
“You need to be more proficient.”
“People will mock you if you keep it like this.”
The true joy of the moment was silenced by a ‘reasonable’ societal stuff we’ve come to call ‘perfectionism.’
But there was something deeper behind it.
The desire for validation.
The fear of being misunderstood.
The passion to be better.
There’s nothing bad if you look at it from the first place.
But what if?
What if you step back each time you fail?
What if you encounter immature people?
What if it won’t give you immediate results?
Right.
Your doubts will be louder.
It’s not that there is only one possible bad scenario, but that’s what you expect to see.
When you have no example.
When you have no experience.
When you have no support.
That’s why many refuse their dreams.
I hate it.
To be clear, I don’t really like it when someone is very committed to something, but life forces them to take a step back.
Like, yeah, people tell you:
“Discipline.”
”Be strong.”
”You can do it.”
And how does it help?
That moment of doubt could sometimes terrify you. You don’t just need polite words in those moments; sincerity and being there are what help.
It took me years to realise the importance of acting like this.
And this was something I learned from others.
Some events could be like a traffic jam — annoying as hell, but helpful as Heaven.
Because they make you miserable at first, but… they keep you safe.
So next time you doubt yourself, just imagine a traffic jam. It takes time to go through, but eventually you will reach your goal alive.
Because without stops, there would be chaos (and fines at best).
Some events are what prevent you from death. Sometimes figuratively, sometimes literally.
It makes a lot of sense to reevaluate your life through such kinda lenses.
And it’s what I did myself a few months ago.
Has it helped? It did!
I won’t lie and say all my difficulties have disappeared immediately. But now I understand what was stopping me, and I can deal with it in practice.
One of my nemeses was my lack of confidence in my spoken English.
A few months of communicating with people all over the world cleared that bias from my mind.
I don’t know what YOU are going through right now, but I’m sure…
You will handle it!
And if you need a bit of help with that, check out my method HERE so you can use it for your benefit.
With much love,
— Anis | ROAR Of Soul